For nearly ten years, I have had some great friends. Our friendship grew through training and racing and has also temporairly fallen apart through the same. Last year, I was so focused on my Ironman that I neglected to pay attention to my friend. I had written training plans for him and even given him a book on training, but that was all. I never checked how he was doing, or even trained with him. Granted, or schedules were WAY different, but that is only an excuse. Since the New Year, I have only seen my friends one time and I emailed to find out why. At that point, I learned why.
It is very heartbreaking when you friend tells she feels that I did not help her husband when he asked for it and treated him shitty. I have also learned that some people need more prodding than others when it comes to fitness. Some want it, some do not. What is your balance? I had figured that I had asked him to enough events; races, rides, etc and when I was not taken up on it, I just quit asking. A local 5K here and there is a great training tool, if you let it be.
Now that I have re-read this, it is kind of rambling, but I now know what my friend needs and if I want to stay friends, I need to look outside my box. Races come and go, but you need to hang onto real friends.
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